Valentine’s Day reminds us to appreciate the comfort love provides 

Our twin front page features for Valentine’s Day are perfect essays to note the importance of love to each of us.

Like so much of life today, the reality of genuine love has been distorted and skewed by a society that worships too many of the wrong things.

It’s long been common for those in the daze of youth to mistake desire and lust for love. Desire and lust might better be compared to the spices used in a delicious meal. They can provide the “spark” to otherwise staid sustenance. It’s not the zesty taste, but the long-lasting nourishment a good meal provides, that helps us function and perform at our best.

Such is the nature of real love.

It’s often not until we achieve the bloom of maturity do we adequately recognize how much the love of a spouse can mean. As life evolves and great moments are reached, how can those mountain-top achievements mean even more? By sharing them with the person we love the most.

I’ve been privileged to be in a position to see some wondrous sights around the world but, oftentimes, it was my position as a journalist who made witnessing those sights possible — alone. Things like the view of a German castle hanging on the side of a craggy mountaintop as clouds swirled around the turrets; a lonely shepherd crouched on a dusty hillside in Israel as he watched over sheep exactly the same way his kind has been doing for thousands of years; waves crashing over the shore at one of the world’s most spectacular beaches in Australia.

Each of those sights brought tears to my eyes with their beauty and significance, but only one gave me the ultimate satisfaction of being able to share the emotions with my wife. While I marveled at all of the sights, a pang of loneliness struck each time I was unable to turn around and share the excitement with the person who meant the most to me.

There’s a saying that sadness is halved each time it is shared — but joy is doubled. You have to have the right spouse before you can ever adequately understand the beauty of that sentiment.

It’s often true that opposites attract and my wife and I are good examples. She is precise, exacting and detailed. I am a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants kind of guy. We complement each other in many ways, but none more so than the uncanny manner in which — when one of us is down, the other is always up. I seldom remember when we’ve both been down in the dumps at the same time.

That’s just one of God’s gifts of genuine love.

Our features speak of the longing these subjects have for being close to each other. I saw another example of that feeling the other day.

Grandson Jaxson was trotting down the street on his way to our house. Over his shoulder he lugged a huge plastic sack. As he got to me, he stopped, reached into the sack and pulled out his favorite teddy bear. Giving the bear a big hug, he told me he didn’t want to go anywhere without his teddy bear.

As a small child craves that comfort, so do we all.

We don’t want to go anywhere without the warmth of the one we love close by.

That’s love worth celebrating. Happy Valentine’s Day!

• Robert M. Williams, Jr. is Editor & Publisher of The Blackshear Times. Email:


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