Clay Gill

“It is not good that man should be alone.” (Genesis 2:18B)

These are the first words that the Lord speaks concerning His design for the family.

Immediately after these words, through His sovereignty and love, God fashions Eve from Adam’s rib and man and woman became one flesh, leaving their father and mother and cleaving one to another. This is God’s design for the marital unit.

The world and its lies and deceptions want to tell the generations alive today that marriage and family can be redefined to mean pretty much anything you personally want it to mean.

Our culture as a whole is not just becoming more accepting of this redefinition of the family but are all together rejecting God’s ordained design. This is worrisome and creates an urgency for Christians to repent and seek a revival in our land IF we are going to return to God’s design for the family.

Let’s start with being clear about what God’s ordained design is for the family unit. He purposed for there to be a one flesh marriage in place and in that marriage the husband and wife, one man and one woman, are to bring up children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

While the husband and wife are to work complimentary with one another in the family, they both have different roles. These roles are not different in terms of one being better than the other, they are different in that each role has a purpose that God has ordained, which empowers both roles to perfectly function as a whole.

All throughout Scripture, we see those who thought that they could redefine this marriage relationship and turn marriage into something that God never intended. There were times when men of the Bible decided that they could be polygamous and have multiple wives.

I often hear David or Solomon quoted as great examples of tolerating alternate designs for the family because while David had many wives, God continued to bless him. To negate this argument, I want to take you back to God’s Word which is what we must always do in order to know what God’s design and purposes are for His people.

“When thou art come unto the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee, and shalt possess it, and shalt dwell therein, and shalt say, I will set a king over me, like as all the nations that (are) about me; Thou shalt in any wise set (him) king over thee, whom the LORD thy God shall choose: (one) from among thy brethren shalt thou set king over thee: thou mayest not set a stranger over thee, which (is) not thy brother. But he shall not multiply horses to himself, nor cause the people to return to Egypt, to the end that he should multiply horses: forasmuch as the LORD hath said unto you, Ye shall henceforth return no more that way. NEITHER SHALL HE MULTIPLY WIVES TO HIMSELF, that his heart turn not away: neither shall he greatly multiply to himself silver and gold. And it shall be, when hesitteth upon the throne of his kingdom, that he shall write him a copy of this law in a book out of (that which is) before the priests the Levites: And it shall be with him, and he shall read therein all the days of his life: that he may learn to fear the LORD his God, to keep all the words of this law and these statutes, to do them: That his heart be not lifted up above his brethren, and that he turn not aside from the commandment, (to) the right hand, or (to) the left: to the end that he may prolong (his) days in his kingdom, he, and his children, in the midst of Israel.” Deuteronomy 17:14-20 KJV.

When you continue reading in the Scriptures about the life of David and Solomon, you will find that this sin of rebellion against having multiple wives was indeed a snare for both of these men and ultimately led to the spiritual fall of them both.

The world also wants to redefine marriage to be between two people of the same sex. While I don’t want to spend much time on this subject because of the clarity of Scripture which states that this is an abomination in God’s eyes, I do feel that I need to address it here because of how the culture today is trying to redefine marriage to mean two men or two women living together.

Again, this is an abomination in the sight of the Lord and here are an few passages of scripture, both Old Testament and New Testament, for you to review.

“Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it [is] abomination.” Leviticus 18:22 KJV

“If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood (shall be) upon them.” Leviticus 20:13 (KJV)

“For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:  And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.” Romans 1:26-27 KJV

“But we know that the law (is) good, if a man use it lawfully; knowing this, that the law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, for whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine.” 1 Timothy 1:8-10 KJV

All throughout Scripture, we see examples of people who thought that they knew better than God and this led to their intentional re-design of the family unit.

All throughout Scripture, we see God warning His people to not partake in this type of rebellion and we see God’s just judgment and condemnation of these people. While in our culture today it is not “popular” to say so, God’s design for the family continues to be the best and only option for how we are to define “family.”

• Clay Gill is the Executive Director at Cord of Three. He is also a licensed professional counselor.