Sarah Tarr Gove

By Sarah Tarr Gove

How colorless, perhaps even humorless, life would be without friends. 

An old friend text me by mistake, professing his love. With a laugh I text him back, “meant for your wife perhaps?” 

I couldn’t help but tease him for a bit – his wife took it well.

But, where would we really be without friends? True friends are loyal, trustworthy and faithful. You can’t shake them off when times get tough. They tend to stick like glue when needed.

I’m a Jane Austen fan and her statements on friendship have always made me smile: “There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends,” Austen said. “I have no notion of loving people by halves; it is not my nature.” 

Friends like Austen are the kind you can pick up a conversation with easily after months or years apart. They’ll show up on your doorstep when life gets hard and you need a helping hand. Or, they’ll drag you into an activity you’d never have attempted without a push. 


Because they’re true friends  — the kind who love wholly rather than ‘by halves.’

One of the most famous examples of friendship is found in Scripture. A king’s son, Jonathan, befriends a shepherd boy named David. Their friendship is steady and true. Jonathan risks his own life and even defies his father, King Saul, to save David’s life.

There was no turf war between Jonathan and David, and they had no struggles regarding their position in the kingdom.  Social status, wealth, lack thereof, or political influences were irrelevant to their friendship. 

How refreshing!

Individually and, as a community, we all need friendships like Jonathan and David’s to enact positive change and “move forward together”  as Blackshear’s newly elected mayor Kevin Grissom has called on us all to do.

Take time to consider who your friends are, and you will most likely find you have more friends than enemies in this town. These friends are loyal, hardworking individuals who love their community as much as you do. Stand on that common ground and we’ll accomplish much.

I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired.  — Jon Katz, NYT best selling author and journalist.

Let’s stay connected and work together folks. 

Take Katz’ advice and don’t walk away or get distracted. Let your desire for a better place to live, work and raise your children be the driving force behind your efforts to improve Blackshear and Pierce County.

And, don’t forget to link arms with the friends who can help you accomplish that task. Don’t take a good friend for granted.

• Sarah Tarr Gove is news editor of The Blackshear Times. Email her at